Service Industry

In my last post I wrote about some insights I had discovered. Some of them have been acquired through personal life experiences. Others where taught to me by my parents and grandparents. All of them kind were kind of joined together when I began to read the book by Matthew McConaughey. Green Lights.

Today was, (to coin his frase) a green light day. I may have not pleased everyone with the work I did today but being in the service industry tips are a good indicator of the quality your work or at least your attitude that is coming across. We were slow at work today and I still did well in tips!

I know every day will not be like this one. However, it has made me take notice that having a passion to make make my customers experience the best possible experience that I can provide, will pay off. If not in cash, then in the knowledge that I did everything in my power to provide the experience they were seeking.

How did I do this? Sounds maybe a bit mainstream; but its my is my morning and evening routine! As a person with ADHD, a routine is often the biggest struggle in my life. However when I accomplish my routines, I have already gotten a release of dopamine from the feeling of being successful before I have even arrived at work!

Now this portion has been the tricky part for me. How do I please my customers without trying to make them like me? By doing the I job I know how to do to the best of my abilities anyways and not caring if my personality is too much along with the knowledge that this experience is all about how I can help my client in this moment. Lighting bolts went off in my head. It is a life altering realization for me. Hopefully this can help you as well. We’re all in this thing called life together. Hence, we’re all in some type service capacity.

Doing it Anyways.

Doing it anyways.

There is so much information to keep our minds occupied. The different media outlets that bombard us are endless. I decided to ask myself the question; how? Asking this question has helped to shift my perspective on things a bit.

How does the media, food, music, individuals effect my mental and physical well being? Being comfortable in ones own skin is basically impossible if I allow outside sources to consume who I am as an individual.

How do I set boundaries so that life does not effect my well being? Some of it is impossible do anything about. However, even this knowledge can be comforting. The joyous occasions of life are much sweeter when there has been sorrow. Being mindful of our priorities is vital to make the best decision in each encounter. Do I whole heartily engage, just be observant, or change directions?

So, how does one go about that? By making a conscious decision to make an effort anyways. Putting some effort towards your goals big or small; is still effort. It’s isn’t about balance. Its about harmony. Even if all the effort doesn’t pay off in the way we had intended, a lesson can still gleaned from the experience. It is our human privilege to be able to decide that for ourselves.

Trying new things.

Bread baked in a dish that was my grandmother’s.

In this time when the world has basically stopped; we have to stay positive. I hear this a lot. Its easier said than done. I decided yesterday that I needed to try something new. So I found a bread recipe and baked it in a dish that I was given after my grandmother passed away. It was comforting to think about the hard times she went through and knowing that she made it through a long time afterwards. I thought about how she came to see my new home. She said that she liked it. She was a busy bee and the thought of that has inspired me to find tasks to accomplish. Accomplishing tasks help boost my mood. It’s amazing that just a dish, could have so much to say.

So Excited!!!!

Brené Brown has a podcast!

I love Unlocking Us with Brené Brown | Brené on FFTs, let’s play it!
https://www.podbean.com/ea/dir-v74du-85b40db

Learning to make do with less.

With the hysteria from the Corona virus at our doorstep I am learning this week how to make do with what we have. I never thought I’d live through a time that things I think are basic needs aren’t readily available. Thankfully where there’s a will there’s a way. I’m writing this while getting my dose of prevention for the day. (Sitting on my patio) I am grateful that my family is all healthy. Things like this puts things in perspective very quickly. Priorities should be the people who love us. Be kind to those around you. Even when its kind of scary. You don’t know what is going on in another person’s life. Instead of letting fear control my life; I’m purposing to let my love be my guiding light. How do you handle fear?

Habits

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit. – Aristotle

I’ve always thought of routines as a way of stifling creativity. As I’ve grown however, I’ve begun to discover that having a routine is comforting. It allows creativity to grow when you purposely use it on regular basis. Being mindful of what serves the goals we wish to achieve; is how we change habits that aren’t helpful. I’ve discovered that when times are stressful I need to take time to review my goals and habbits more often. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

Here’s to new beginnings

It’s the beginning of the new year. A lot has changed for me with in the time I last wrote. I’ve ridden a lot of waves of grief, as well as swells of joy. Some things that I’ve learned through these experiences have been.

• Things are not always as they appear

• Just because things are different, doesn’t mean they’re bad.
• Having a growth mindset is freeing.
• Being grateful for the growth in your life is as enlightening as the new or refreshed experience.
• Growth can be painful. What can I learn from it?

What is going on in your life that you can apply these statements and questions?

Is there any attitudes or actions that aren’t serving you well that can be replaced with something more beneficial?

The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

Minimalism in Progress

Steps Taken

• I’ve decluttered most of my bedroom
• I’ve put my closet in vacuum bags by season.
• I’m using products already purchased until completely empty.
• Learning how to cook gluten free.
• I’ve started delegating.

THINGS I’VE LEARNED FROM THE EXPERIENCE.

• Waking up to clutter free makes my morning much better. I wake up happy that at least in this one area I don’t have to clean.
• Having less in my closet helps me to make a decision. If I try everything in my closet and don’t put it away immediately, I’ve way less to be overwhelmed over.
• Using the products till empty has shown me how wasteful I’ve been. I also haven’t needed to buy many personal products for a while.
• Learning how to take a thing out of our diets that has been making me and my family feel bad has been challenging. I like a challenge. I feel as if I’m winning when I don’t tell my kids that something I’ve made is “Mom’s health food” and they like it!
• It’s difficult to let others do things. I feel like I should be able to do it all. I can’t. No, they won’t do it like I think it should be done. However, it gives us a sense of teamwork when we do what needs to get accomplished together. We’ve the best talks when we are working together.

I’m linking a blog that I’ve recently discovered. I thought it was inspiring and wanted to share it with you. The Minimalist Mom

–side note-

I’m doing this for me. I’m not trying to make my kids or husband do this. Except for the gluten free. Doctors recommendation. I’ve found that in my quest for less anxiety that it makes sense to control what I can. Basically, that means me. I can lead by example but trying to make others think as I do is futile. Honestly, how boarding would life be if we all thought the same? Extremely in my opinion. 

Question- What activity brings you a sense of happiness?

Yeah. I don’t know what I’m doing.

Ever feel this way? I do. About half of my waking hrs. I was recently reminded. It’s not about the destination. It’s about journey. Enjoying the journey is my life goal. Even if at the moment life isn’t pleasant, there are always something that I can be grateful for in a day. I found this YouTuber (Sadia @ Pick up Limes)https://youtu.be/UjZwTDWxhbg today and have enjoyed the pointers she gave. Maybe you will as well.